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The other day I had a discussion about feminism. I was told that, because I still have “old school” views of how men should treat men I’m not a true feminist. Because I expect men, in the early dating stages, to open the door for me, pay for dinner, and overall treat me like the lady I am I’m setting women back. That, to me, is bullshit. Here’s why:

According to Webster, feminism is: 

1. the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes 
2. organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests

Let’s focus on the first aspect. It can be argued that, in order gain equality, women should “act like men”. They will open their own doors, they will refuse to allow men to pay for dinner and they will overall pick up male tendencies. If treated like an “inferior gender” they become angry and defensive. However, a man is independent of a woman. I like having my own role as a woman. By attempting to push the male tendencies on females it is not only taking away from what makes us unique and beautiful, but it is setting feminism BACK. Women should embrace what makes them women, and men should embrace what makes them men. This evens the playing field and creates equality in our own right.

Forget workplace equality, because this a completely different can of worms entirely. I’m talking dating, and dating alone. Women acting like men in their social isn’t going to change our salaries. So, to the women refusing gentlemanly behavior and allowing men to become lazy I beg of you to stop. Men are becoming lazy and you’re not doing anything for our gender. 

I am an independent woman. I have more than one job, I pay my own rent, bills, and taxes. I have my own car. I hustle daily. I am proud to be a woman and will embrace my girly side. I love pink. I love playing dress up. I love to be told I’m pretty. I am a feminist.