bestbrestinthewest

22nd Feb 2012 | 3 notes

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—Lil Wayne - So Special

So Special…John Legend & Lil Wanye

22nd Feb 2012 | 1 note

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Blue October

—Blue October - The Answer

One of my favorite bands…Blue October

…the notches…

Dear mom and dad, if you are reading this please..stop.

Okay, now that they’re gone, we can touch on a topic that seems to always be on everyone’s mind. Sex. I was raised sexually modest and continue to hold certain beliefs. Sure…I enjoy sex, but growing up it wasn’t discussed.

At 24, I find myself conflicted between embracing the sexual being that I am while holding on to the girl who wears a chastity ring. However, because hook-ups are inevitable for the beautiful and young People of Hollywood. I tend to punish myself as the notches on my belt begin to grow. I want to find a man I can sleep with monogamously, but the men I meet are far from boyfriend (or marriage) material. So, do I wait until I find my prince charming in order to satisfy my urges as woman? If I do, I could be waiting 20 years. Youth is merely a small stop on our journey through life, so why waste it on…waiting? Is there a happy medium between embracing sexuality and feeling like respectable woman? I think so.

A man doesn’t have to be a boyfriend, but he can be a courteous and unselfish love who won’t leave me kicking myself, but thankful that I was able to experience such an intimate moment with him. Good sex is the kind you tend not to regret.

I have found that those who embrace their sexual side tend to have more confidence. Confidence creates power that allows success in various aspects of life.

So, go ahead, go have some good (and safe) sex.

21st Feb 2012

21st Feb 2012 | 2 notes

I am a feminist.

The other day I had a discussion about feminism. I was told that, because I still have “old school” views of how men should treat men I’m not a true feminist. Because I expect men to open the door for me, pay for dinner, and overall treat me like the lady I am I’m setting women back. That, to me, is bullshit. Here’s why:

According to Webster, feminism is:

the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests

Let’s focus on the first aspect. It can be argued that, in order gain equality, women should “act like men”. They will open their own doors, they will refuse to allow men to pay for dinner and they will overall pick up male tendencies. If treated like an “inferior gender” they become angry and defensive. However, a man is independent of a woman. I like having my own role as a woman. By attempting to push the male tendencies on females it is not only taking away from what makes us unique and beautiful, but it is setting feminism BACK. Women should embrace what makes them women, and men should embrace what makes them men. This evens the playing field and creates equality in our own right.

Forget workplace equality, because this a completely different can of worms entirely. I’m talking dating, and dating alone. Women acting like men in their social isn’t going to change our salaries. So, to the women refusing gentlemanly behavior and allowing men to become lazy I beg of you to stop. Men are becoming lazy and you’re not doing anything for our gender.

I am an independent woman. I have more than one job, I pay my own rent, bills, and taxes. I have my own car. I hustle daily. I am proud to be a woman and will embrace my girly side. I love pink. I love playing dress up. I love to be told I’m pretty. I am a feminist.